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Sort of a rant, I guess? I'm just a little frustrated, is all
I'm the only person in my family with curly hair. That includes my extended family who, as far as I know, all have straight or wavy hair. Don't get me wrong, I love my curls. I think curly hair is absolutely beautiful. It's just... I can't seem to make my curls as pretty as everyone else's. I don't really know how curly hair works. Growing up in a family with straight hair, all they really know how to care for is straight hair. Since I was little and rarely questioned the knowledge and authority of my parents, I just let them do whatever they wanted to with my hair. Brushing my hair when it was dry and yanking on the tangles, straightening my hair when it was wet ("the sizzling means it's working" my ass), never using any creams, gels, or leave-ins, the list goes on. I think my hair still suffers today after years of mistreatment, but I can't be too upset I guess. My parents didn't know.
I honestly didn't start learning how much goes into curly hair care until recently. Like, around two years ago recently. Maybe even a little less. I kept seeing all these pretty girls talk about how they get their hair to be so nice and curly, and man, I didn't know I was missing so much. Even with cheaper products and brands, curly hair is expensive. It seems as though the curlier your hair is, the more expensive it is to care for it. I'm only able to afford some of the basic necessities, but no matter what I do, I still can't make my hair look as nice as the girls I see online or in person. I've had lucky moments where my hair looks stunning, so I know it's possible for me to have nice hair... But I have no idea how to keep it that way. I have no idea how to maintain my hair and I hate it so much. Sometimes I wish I was born with straight hair or that I had the courage to shave my head.
My hair plays such an important role in my confidence, and my confidence has not been too high lately. A big part of that has to do with my hair and how shitty it looks. My parents will tell me that my hair looks "just fine" or "it's perfect as is" but I don't believe them anymore. Clearly they don't understand how curly hair works, so why should I believe them when they say I look fine? Man, this is all so frustrating. Though I know one day I'll be able to afford all the hair care I need. I'm not giving up hope just yet, after all! I have plenty of time to make my appearance something I'm happy with, though I guess I'd be lying if I said I don't get impatient sometimes
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bunny
same. at this point i just have to accept that my hair is always going to be a bit frizzy. but recently someone said that my hair looked pretty even though i thought it looked bad that day.
Frizz is my worst enemy. I literally cannot get it under control no matter what I do, so I'm pretty much doing the same thing you did and accept that my hair will always be at least a little bit frizzy. It's so sweet that you got a compliment though!! If you know how you did you hair that day, maybe you can try doing it again and see what happens!
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ghostwithrabiesX_x
!!! This is so real. My mom has curly hair, but my dad's is straight and my hair is a mix of theirs. The bottom parts of my hair are wavy at best, while the top is really curly, maybe about 3c? When I was little my mom was never up early enough to do my hair for school, so up until 6th grade when I started doing my own hair my dad would just spray it with water and put my hair in a ponytail everyday. My mom never really told me how to take care of my hair, I didn't even use conditioner after washing my hair until I was 12. In 6th grade I hated my curly hair and would straighten it almost every morning, and I once cried bc I had to go to school with curly hair. Even now I'm still so bad at keeping up with my hair, and I used to have a friend with 4c hair who would beg to pick my hair out, or separate all the curls, or take her comb and brush my hair DRY in class while making remarks like "your hair is so nappy, do you not brush it?" I would tell her no, and she'd make a face at me. She wouldn't even let me pat her head the entire time we were friends bc it would "mess up her hair" (she had close to a buzz cut) i cut her off earlier this year, but i still dont understand how someone with curly hair could put someone else with it down so much. I've been trying to properly take care of my hair recently, but it's really hard and so expensive. Its especially time consuming, and I don't have the time to wake up early before school and brush my hair out, dry it, and style it. And my curls get looser and frizzy throughout the week, so it's hard to make it look nice :( I really feel for you, srry if this was a bit too much
We have a LOT of similar experiences with our hair omg. In a way, it's really comforting to know that there's someone else who struggles with their hair. I didn't mention it, but my curls are all different too. Some areas will look curly, others will look wavy, and I'll sometimes find a few strands that almost look straight. I know it's because I'm not properly caring for my hair, but I don't know how to do said proper care. I never really put my hair up, but I definitely remember having my hair sprayed with water to "style" it but my hair just ended up getting frizzy. Then of course there's the millions of times my hair was brushed dry. No matter how many times I tell my parents that brushing my hair will mess up my curls and make my hair poofy, they still insist that I should brush my hair and complain when I don't
I'm not in high school anymore, but I did only graduate recently and not having time to do my hair in the morning is something I'll NEVER miss. I already had to wake up before the sun rose. If I woke up any earlier, then I might as well have not slept in the first place. My hair would get messier throughout the week too and at that point I just hoped I looked decent enough to avoid anyone pointing out my hair. Even out of high school, I struggle with managing my hair every single day. Sometimes I wonder if I'm just a slow worker or if curly hair really IS that time consuming (maybe a bit of both tbh)
But hey, we both have plenty of time to figure out our hair! I've learned over the years that curly hair is something to be proud of, and I hope you'll feel the same if you don't already. If it helps at all, I try to look for hair care tips on youtube, tiktok, and pinterest. Or really anywhere that tips and tutorials are posted. My hair still isn't anywhere near where I want it to be, but looking for help online has made it a lot better than what it used to be
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I just sorta rambled here tbh. Sorry if I made any spelling mistakes or wrote anything that doesn't make sense ^^;