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''Salam alaykum (Peace be upon you), friends and welcome to a new video. The first video of this kind. I made a video a few weeks ago where I told you my story and today it will be a similar video about it, as you probably read in the title, ''Are you happy?''.''
''A question that we ask every day as if it were nothing special. By asking the question, for example: “How are you?”. We ask people this question at small talks. We ask people we don't even know: "Hello, how are you?". This is normal small talk in so many cultures around the world. But normally, when we ask someone, "How are you?", we don't expect a real answer, that someone will tell us how they are really doing, but we expect a normal "Good and you?". The question of how you are doing and whether you are happy is, in my opinion, the most important question in life, because no matter whether you believe in a God, no matter whether you believe in whoever, no matter what religion you have or no matter what meaning in life you have. At the end of the day, life is about whether you are happy. However you achieve this happiness, whether you are happy when you pursue your religion, whether you are happy when you start a family. At the end of the day, it's about using this life to be happy. Even I actually always forget that. And that's why I decided to make this video, just sharing some of my thoughts with you, because I know that many of you out there are not happy, or aren't happy yet.''
''The truth is that the majority of society are actually not happy. And the irony of the whole story is that it is at a time like this when we are doing better than ever all over the world. In Europe alone we have a level of prosperity that has never been seen before in the history of humanity. We live in security. We have many advantages here. Especially us who have the privilege of living in Germany. I live in Turkey right now, but the people who live in Germany have all the advantages in the world. And yet, more people in Germany suffer from depression than almost ever before because people have forgotten to take the question seriously. In fact, ''How are you?''. And many people say that they don't have the time to deal with this question. They will find every excuse in the world not to deal with this question. For the simple reason that the most difficult thing in this world is not to work on your appearance, it is not to find a good job. It's not all that. All of these things are not difficult to achieve. Achieved by the biggest idiots in the history of mankind. The most difficult thing there is in this world is to deal with your own feelings and yourself, because once you start doing that, you have to go through a difficult path to overcome it. I want to give you an example of this from my own past.''
[WHAT DID HE DO FOR HAPPINESS]
''When I was 15 years old, I had the goal in my head of losing weight. I was 15 years old. As you know, very very heavy if you've been following me before. Over 100 kilos and my only wish in life was to lose weight. I thought that if I lost weight, all my problems would solve themselves. I thought I would find friends, I thought I would find a girlfriend, I thought all my problems would just disappear from one moment to the next. Relatively stupid thought when you think about the fact that the body has nothing to do with the character. Nevertheless, I had this thought and worked towards it, the whole time. I really wanted to lose weight and be trained. And I achieved that at some point. And guess what happened. I wasn't happy even though I had achieved the body I wanted. And it wasn't because what I did was wrong. Everything I did was right at that point. I started being disciplined. I started to get my life together. I don't want to talk you out of doing the same. Do it and it will help you a lot, too. But all the things I did over and over again were just excuses to face the only question, whether I'm really happy and how to be really happy. Next came the second step, which is that I have lost weight but I don't have a girlfriend. I really wanted a girlfriend. I have always said that if I have this partner by my side, then I will definitely be happy. Guess what happened? Plot twist on the whole story, like before: 'No'.
I've had three girlfriends in the whole story. I achieved my goal, I had a girlfriend. I was dissatisfied. I broke up with her. I had another girlfriend and was dissatisfied again. I broke up again. I had a girlfriend again. None of that made me happy though. And I thought to myself again: ''How can that be? I've always wanted a girlfriend. I have always wanted a thin body.'' And despite all these things that I have achieved, I am still not happy?
It was the same thing over and over again. I did get the things, but after getting those things, I was unmotivated. Something is missing in the whole story and then I understood one thing when I was sitting in a Café with my big brother and my big brother's friend who said to me: ''Ahmad, if you always think that you will only be happy If you have achieved a certain goal or you have become a certain person in terms of your development, then you will never be happy because we humans are always striving for more and you are someone who is always striving for more because you are a very goal-oriented person. If you continue to live like this all your life, you will die thinking; 'But I still want to achieve this and that until I'm really happy.' The route is the goal.''
Of course it sounds very, very cheesy at first, but I thought about it for a long time and realized that my path to happiness was always the wrong one. And that if I continue like this, I, like many other people, will probably die without ever having been happy.''
''Why am I telling you all this? Not to present a typical success story.
[Meme clip: ''It made me a successful man.'']
There is no success story. If someone asked me the question, "Are you happy?", I would still definitely answer "no" to that question. That means it's relatively ironic that I'm the one making this video, because I can't answer this question for you. And no one out there can answer this question for you. Only you can answer this question about how you become happy. Because every person out there, as I said at the beginning, something different makes them happy.
There was an old man on a mountain who always helped people get up that mountain. He went down every time and helped these people get to the top of the mountain. People, tourists, and so on. And there was a man who asked him: ''Are you happy?''. And this man smiled and said, ''Yes.'' He asked him: ''Why are you happy? You hardly have any money. You don't have anything. Your slippers. Just eat barely. Survive through some mountain goats and so on. Why are you happy?''. More said, it makes him happy to see how he makes other people happy. This means that no one in this world can answer you how to be happy.
Until the best coach and consultant is in the world, no one in this world will be able to tell you how to be happy.''
[A WAY OF HAPPINESS?]
''But I can tell you what I have learned to prevent you from my mistakes. In fact, if you look for your happiness far away, then you will miss your happiness when it comes knocking at home. What I want to tell you is, don't try to spend your whole life chasing something that doesn't make you happy. Whether it's the job, whether it's the supposed true love, whatever. If you spend your whole life chasing supposedly happy things that supposedly make you happy, then you will die sad. I have met very few people in my life who were truly completely happy. You immediately notice a happy aura from them because you can tell that they really enjoy life. As a very smart woman once said: ''Don't try to add more days to life, but try to add more life to the days.'' This means, live life as if every day were your last and don't say I won't be happy until I get an A in this subject. It will go on and on and on, if you say you will only be happy when you have an 'A - high school diploma', then you will then say that you will only be happy when you have an 'A - study degree'. After that, when you get your 'A - study degree', you'll say you won't be happy until you're moved to the first department of your employer, and so on. You will never be truly happy.
For example, being overweight actually made me unhappy. And it's a good thing that I worked on it. But while I was working on it, I was constantly unhappy. And that's the case for so many people. We work and work and work, and are unhappy along the way toward the goal.''
[VALUE YOUR LIFE/TIME]
''That's why I want to ask you: "How much is the goal worth if you were permanently unhappy on the way to the goal?"
''Is this goal really still worth something or has it just been a waste of time?''
Because no one will be able to give this time back to you. And time is the most valuable thing we have received from God. Because time is the limiting factor for everything in this world. I made this video specifically while I'm unhappy so I can share with you my thoughts, my honest thoughts. Because if I had made this video maybe in ten or twenty years, when I'm really happy, I would have just had to start the video with the question "Are you happy?", answer "Yes", and I could have turned off the video straight away because I'm happy. Yes, because I am unhappy myself and I know that many of you are not happy either, but you try to push it away so that you don't have to deal with the question. I know how you feel, I know how hard it is to deal with this question and I know how bad it can be to be unhappy. And that's why I just want to give you one thing with this video.''
[DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY]
''No matter how unhappy you are, remember that everything around you doesn't matter. Because in 80 years you will be burried. It doesn't matter whether you got a six in the exam, whether that happens, whether that happens. The only thing that matters is whether you have used the time in 80 years and can say 'you are happy'. 'You lived your life the way you wanted to live it.' It's relatively pointless to say to yourself, 'Don't let all these things get you down because they're irrelevant, at the end of the day.' I know these things still get you down. I am also a human being myself. It's okay for them to bring us down. The most important thing at the end of the day is that we wake up and say, "Is it really worth that I am being unhappy? It could be my last day and I'm unhappy, on that day''. Therefore, never forget, every day that you are unhappy is one less day that you have lived. Seek to find your true happiness by finding yourself. And what I'm saying is very, very harsh. Maybe ten years, maybe 15, but even if it takes 30 years, you will still be better off than most of society who died without ever being happy. That's why, to my religious brothers and sisters who live for God, at the end of the day the meaning is that you were happy. And made other people happy. Because no matter what you did or didn't do, if you were happy at the end of the day, then believe me one thing, you won't regret leaving this world because you were happy, just like that man who had nothing and was still happy because he saw other people smiling. This man will be able to leave with a smile on his face because he followed his own path and not what other people tried to tell him. In that sense, we try to be happy together. As cheesy as it sounds.''
''I hope you enjoyed the video. I just wanted to talk a little bit about my soul. Thanks to everyone who listened to me until the end. Even though I talked a lot, I love you all. Feel free to leave a comment. I'm really going to read through every single comment under this video, so pour your soul out under this video. Feel free to leave a like. I love you all, friends. Thank you for supporting me every week. And dig in, friends.
Bye, have fun becoming happy.''
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Uploaded on 24th April 2022
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