im honestly so tired of seeing this stuff lol so im going to refute a few common anti arguments
also, "proship" refers to being anti-harassment for enjoying fiction, while "comship" refers to actually indulging in dark or "problematic" fiction. the pro in proship does not mean problematic, its pro as in for. you can be proship and not be comship. i might use them interchangeably on accident in this blog tho, sorry!
"loli/shotacon is illegal!" firstly, no its not. secondly, not all comships enjoy or even interact with that kind of content.
"It's only considered child p***ography if the person in the images or videos is indistinguishable from an actual child. This means that an ordinary person who is viewing the depiction would reasonably conclude the depiction is of an actual minor who is engaged in s**ually explicit conduct (18 U.S.C. § 2256). However, it does not include visual depictions that are drawings, cartoons, paintings, sculptures, or computer-generated images. Under 18 U.S.C. 2252, depiction must actually be child p*** with real minors." Source : https://www.egattorneys.com/federal-crimes/federal-child-pornography
"you cant use it for coping because itll only reopen wounds!" the following quote is about kink specifically, but it can easily be applied to non-sexual comshipping as well.
"Many of those who reported trauma and hardship talked about kink as a way to relive that hardship with a sense of healing and mastery over it. For example, a sexual assault survivor might initially feel afraid, weak, and powerless during their actual sexual assault. However, simulating that assault via consensual roleplaying with a trusted partner can help them feel powerful (because they consensually negotiated and agreed to it, and can use a safeword to stop the scene), strong (because they feel they can get through whatever physical pain or intensity comes their way), and brave, for facing what can often be dark times in their past head-on." Source : https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/standard-deviations/201805/growing-up-kinky-research-shows-how-kink-identity-is-formed
"proshipping will turn you into a pedo/only pedos proship." again, not all proshippers interact with loli/shotacon or ship adultxminor. comshipping does not make you a pedo, because anyone in a relatively stable state of mind can differentiate fiction from reality starting at the age of, like, 5. anyone who is not a pedo is not going to turn into a pedo because of comshipping.
"Do fetishes and proclivities engaged virtually—these so-called "mere tendencies"—bleed into our IRL sexual experiences? The answer, according to Dr. Seto, is that they only do if the risk factors and inclinations to commit those acts already existed: No amount of digital media is going to force someone's hand if their hand was not already moving in that direction." Source : https://www.vice.com/en/article/d7am4w/can-virtual-sex-prevent-pedophiles-from-harming-children-in-real-life
pedophilia is bad obviously, but comshipping isnt going to turn someone a pedo. The notion that all dark fiction shouldnt exist because it *might* encourage someone who was already having deranged fantasies about real people is ridiculous, because there are plenty of people who do not have these fantasies about real people (i am emphasizing real because fictional people are not real) and just enjoy dark fiction for reasons completely separated from reality, or for the reasons of coping.
its a lot like horror movies in my opinion. people that enjoy horror movies are not murderers, and they will not become murderers for enjoying horror movies. a horror movie might encourage someone who was already had murderous tendencies, but its ridiculous to ban all horror movies because of this possibility.
overall, harass the actual pedophiles and groomers, not innocents who just enjoy *fiction*.
"that content is triggering to me and other survivors." dont interact with it then. spacehey doesn't have an algorithm, so the only way youre finding this kind of stuff is if you actively look for it, which is your fault at that point. as for other sites, most sites have an ability to block certain words/tags, and even if they dont, if you dont interact with that content then the algorithm wont push it towards you. if you comment hate on comship posts/accounts, the algorithm will assume you like it and give you more of that content, which is, again, on you.
comshippers that harass antis and send them comship content maliciously are an entirely different story. fuck you if you do that, but also that isnt the case for every single comshipper in existence. that specific group of people is a very loud minority, majority of us are very nice and civil!! :) (and also typically afraid of antis for how often we get harassed, actually.)
"its gross and wrong (aka, "*I* think its gross and wrong")." see point made above
"what if children see it and think its ok irl?" firstly, why is a literal child on websites 13+? that sounds like their parents problem. secondly, if a child has it drilled into their head that pedophilia/rape is, infact, BAD, from a very young age (as they should have), i promise they are not suddenly going to think its ok because they saw one twitter post. like i said earlier, children above 5 can differenciate fiction from reality (doesnt mean they should be interacting with that content, but if they stumble across it somehow it will not ruin their worldview). either way, if they are affected THAT heavily by comship content, that is entirely on their parents, not comshippers.
TLDR ; comshipping is legal and can be a healthy coping mechanism. please do not harass people for what fiction they consume. no matter what you believe, harassment of innocents is BAD, period. if you want to have a discussion with me about this my dms and comments are open, but please do not harass me or anyone else who supports what i said. thanks!! :))
*edit : removed the twitter thread because people kept thinking i was citing it, i was not lol. i was just saying it was a good starting point to find resources from, none of my information came from that thread and all of it came from actual sources.*