Friendships can hurt

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Things have been, quite messy lately. One of my friends that I care deeply about is in a situation where it's hurting all of us in our friend group and when we talked to her about it, she shutdown very quickly and didn't listen to a word we said. It truly hurts to know that she understands what it's like to be on our side and even said it's distressing and irritating at times but she's doing the exact same thing to us.

We can't do anything to help her unless she recognizes there's a problem in the first place. She just isn't there yet and I can't risk my own mental and phyiscal needs for this any longer. I shouldn't have been doing that in the first place. I've set my boundaries up and I hope that because I did this, it might get through to her that this situation is hurting a friendship we've had for over 6 years now. 

I just wish sometimes people would actually listen. I know manipulation is super hard to break out of but this has been going on for so long that I can't do anything about it without damaging myself. And if I damage myself, I can no longer be there to support her.

The harsh reality of adulthood is; if you don't listen, take the hints, or help yourself- nobody is going to do it for you. You will end up being hurt or hurt those around you.

Nobody can force you to get better. 

Only you can take those steps.