#Delusional Girl Theory: Misinterpretation of femininity.

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Before starting the actual blog, I’d like to address some things, since this topic is very dear to me.

-This is my own opinion on femininity.

-I am not criticizing femininity or aesthetic itself but rather the pressure of constant branding and performance. I am not also criticizing girls who enjoy aesthetics, fashion, routines, or self-improvement.

Now on to the actual blog:

I think one of the strangest things about femininity is how deeply it is tied to the idea of becoming someone else. The main idea now, is to ‘glow up’.

The person who wakes up at 6am, the person who shops a lot, the person who has her life put together. More like ‘That Girl’. Even the smallest things begin to feel symbolic. Lip-gloss is no longer treated like lip-gloss.

Surely, femininity also has its way of presenting itself to the public, being girly, being delicate, being elegant, being soft. But not just that.

Femininity is more than girlhood. More than being visually appealing.

People ‘romanticize’ their lives like that’s what femininity is all about. Aesthetic playlists, journals, skincare routines, rooms, aesthetic everything. It’s not wrong, it’s not just the purpose.

The internet has even made this more intense. Every phase is now an aesthetic, even sadness has a color palette. It’s now more external and less internal. I think the internet accidentally taught people that femininity is an aesthetic before it’s an experience.

Even shopping is a ritual. Buying new clothes, buying skincare, buying things that promise transformation. The idea of “becoming her” is now constantly sold to girls through routines, products, aesthetics and trends.

The thing is- reinvention wasn’t the main purpose of femininity. In the late 18^th century, Europe specifically, femininity was more about making a voice, being known for your capabilities than being known for your appearance. There were periods where femininity was tied to intellect, social influence, capability, and political voice—not just beauty.

The pressure to constantly reinvent yourself can make femininity feel exhausting. Instead of appreciating who we already are, we are taught to search for a newer, prettier, more disciplined version of ourselves. The idea of womanhood becomes tied to transformation rather than identity. But rather than becoming someone entirely new, why can’t we focus on becoming the perfected versions of ourselves? Why must femininity always feel like becoming someone else, instead of becoming more fully ourselves?