"being nonchalant" = "loneliness epidemic"

Everyone talks about how boring and repetitive blogs on social media — specifically this platform — have become. I have seen endless blogs of users rating about "Nobody cares about your personal life" or "*insert rant about why I'm morally right and you are wrong*".

Nowadays it is seen as embarrassing or "cringe" whenever a person simply shares too much, cares too much or is quite frankly enthusiastic about something. This strange sensation of having the need to put down others to make oneself more socially attractive is what others would describe as "being nonchalant".

Doesn’t being "nonchalant" just mean that you don’t care about anything?
Why go to such an extent to make a whole blog about it?

Being nonchalant is normalized in many social circles . Often described as a characteristic.Another way of saying ,"Hey this person doesn’t get influenced by nothing and I think that’s cool. I want to be as non-caring as they are." Itself its social strategy by many to gain others admiration  and thus allowing individuals to feel as if bystanders have to tolerate their abundance of disrespect and shaming.What is getting praised is the emotional withdrawal hiding behind a facade of resilience.

It’s public knowledge that many use nonchalance as a way to protect their inner peace, by building up a shield to not let in any negative emotions. All in all it doesn’t seem like a big problem, I mean what’s the problem of distancing oneself from those negative influences? The answer is plain and simple: despite not letting in all the hurt and fear , oneself is protecting them self from positive influences and emotions included.

Many in a relationship —no matter if its romantic or platonic—are struggling to keep the spark alive. 

One-sided effort.

No clear communication.

Lacking emotional safety.

Pure exhaustion. And the list goes on…

Just by trying to gain social popularity through nonchalance, a person can lose it in a whim by  just "not caring at all" .This devilish cycle of gaining admiration and losing it by not being able to form a proper connection with another person is one of the many causes of today's "loneliness epidemic".

Teens and adults are struggling to form connections by not even giving themselves a chance of forming one, scared of their feelings and this nonchalant society’s pressures to not "express yourself too much , incase of getting titled as "cringe"". How is someone supposed to grow as an individual if everything they do is something they have to be nervous or scared about?

I’m in NO way trying to disregard those who are "nonchalant" ,because of the loss of a close one , bullying or whatever the reason is. We are human. But titling "nonchalance" as normal is something to worry and work on.