i think really the key to getting what you want and getting others to leave you alone and think you have it all together is just to come up with stuff on the spot that can make you sound better, or make it sound like you're trying more than you really are. remember your tones too. my mom asked what i'm planning to do to tomorrow catch up on the missing assignments i have for this one class. i'm not doing shit tomorrow, i'm hanging out with my friend instead when i could be staying at school to get progress done. so i said i'll do it during lunch (i probably won't). it doesnt really make a difference because no matter what i say, i'm nto doing it tomorrow--i do care about the class and catching up in it and i'll do stuff to catch up but idrgaf. that was just a lie i told so my mom wouldnt get concerned and start a screaming match with me. see? now she thinks i'm on track. people don't treat you better because you really get better, they do it because you SOUND more secure. fake it!