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i've been feeling a bit insecure about some of my friendships lately, maybe because i've just been a bit down. One thing that normally never bothered me and that is starting to make me feel unsure is when a specific friend of mine won't reply to my texts for days, sometimes weeks, won't pick up my calls and won't ask me to hang out. This has been going on for a while and i don't like to be bossy but it's starting to bother me, sometimes when they do reply i feel like not responding or not beeing as nice as i would be because i'm tired of this or want them to notice it, but at the same time i want to just be myself and be happy that they responded and keep being nice and asking them to hang out.
i don't know how to feel or what to do, maybe i should talk to them about it but doing so makes me feel like i'm being complicated.
any tips?
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david
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and no, you don't have to thank me
although I wont stop you if you want to
X3Xd00perX3X
Sometimes people just grow apart and go their separate ways in life. Not all friendships are based on texting daily or hanging out every chance they get. They may be going through stuff that's causing them to be more distant than usual. Best thing to do. like how the other person said, is talk to them. See if they're ok. Depending on their answer, you might have to just give them space, whether it's because they hate you, or hate themselves. If they in their feels heavy and depressed like crazy, you might need to force them to go out and uplift them, they might appreciate it. Idk your or their situation though, if they just not talking to u, u might have to just let them be. Your friendship might not look the same, maybe just monthly updates, but all good things in life don't last forever all the time. Hope all turns out good, be happy living for yourself and accept letting people go, because if your best friend is someone who barely talks to you or hangs out with you, then maybe its for the better that you both go your seperate ways. pEace!
aisha 🪽
Communication is the key! You’ve probably heard it a thousand times but it’s true. Being able to talk openly about your feelings and express what’s bothering you is important. Your friend will likely never question their behavior which they probably see as completely normal and harmless because no one else pointed it out before.
But if you’re worried that they might react negatively when you bring it up then it might be worth rethinking your friendship. You should be able to have honest conversations about things like this.
thank you so much for your advice, you're right, we used to communicate a lot about everything but it seems it has died down a bit..i might try to talk to them about it and hope they don't feel like i'm being complicated :)
by juno!!☆; ; Report
You only become “complicated” when you start to withdraw and keep your worries bottled up inside. Sooner or later, that pressure builds up and it can easily turn into conflict.
Avoid that by simply talking about what’s on your mind trust me communication truly prevents chaos.
by aisha 🪽; ; Report
you're totall right, bottling stuff inside just makes things more difficult, thank you :)
by juno!!☆; ; Report
You're welcome love I was in a similar situation once and have now lost my friend too but it was for the best. One should respect the other person's concerns and not feel immediately attacked.
by aisha 🪽; ; Report
i'm sorry that happened to you :( i'm sure you did the right thing in the long run!
by juno!!☆; ; Report
No it's alright It was only for the best for both of us. We both had different ideas about friendship
by aisha 🪽; ; Report
yeah, sometimes people just aren't compatible
by juno!!☆; ; Report