How we shut down any admiration towards women, and how it effects young boys.

Date: 16/Oct/2025

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- So my younger brother, like every other kid in this world, watched Kpdh and quickly became obsessed with it. He obviously likes Huntrix, Because they're the heroes pushing back darkness. He says he wants to be part of Huntrix and wants to be like rumi/mira/zoey. 

My younger sisters were quick to shut him down tho. Growing up in a Desi Christian household, they too have misogyny internalised within them. They shut him down with comments like "Huntrix is filled with girls" and "Rumi is a girl. You cant be a girl" and just ruining the admiration he clearly held for them. 

I saw the effects of these comment on him pretty quick. He started really liking the saja boys, all he'd talk about was jinu, abby, and all the other characters, stopped singing huntrix's songs and more of the saja boys songs.

The long term effects of these comments:

On the surface this isnt much of an issue. Kids switch between favourite charcters all the time, thats just them enjoying the media they've consumed, And im just being a man-hating feminist. But of course things are always much deeper then you think, and this too is obviously rooted in misogyny.

We as a society are so quick to shut down any admiration young boys have towards women/female characters. This way we are indirectly telling young boys women arent worthy of being looked up to, respected, and being someone you want to be like.

When my brother says that he likes any of the huntrix members my sisters immediately act like he means romantic love despite being like 5. This internalises that guys cant feel any emotion towards girls other then romantic interest. It removes girls as genuine cool human beings with achievements who are worthy of respect and awe in their view and just how much you'd be willing to date them. 

Probably where the habit of guys who go into comments of random women commenting "mid", acting like every woman is auditioning to marry him starts aswell.

With these kinds of phrases, we bury seeds in their mind that being like a woman is shameful, which obviously makes him think subconciously that being a woman is shameful. Also its ironic how women acting like men is seen as empowering as opposed to men acting like women being shameful. Its almost as if society itself thinks being a woman immediately makes you less worthy or respect. (shocking right? Whoever couldve seen that coming? /sarcasm)

Things as simple as the color pink, baby dolls, cooking toys etc are seen as shameful and people are afraid these things are gonna make him "gay". Which is stupid because THIS is what are we afraid of by taking away baby dolls/cooking toys from young boys??? Are we afraid hes gonna become a good and present father and a good cook??? Just because those traits have been associated with women?? The irony is laughable. 

They see femininity as something bad. which is reflected in the way when women act more feminine and/ or cheerful and friendly, they are never taken seriously in many professional places, and more likely to be harrassed/disrespected. Which is why many women act indifferent and or cold in professional spaces.

Comments as simple as these can cause much difficulty to the lives of women by instilling seeds of disrespect towards women in the minds of young boys so early on, contributing to the patriarchy and keeping women less then equals all around the world.

Conclusion:

The next time you see a young boy saying he wants to be like a female figure either in his life or in fiction, please think about what you read here, and dont shut them down. Let them look up to and admire the amazing and wonderful women in their life, because being a women is not shameful, despite what society wants you to think (because who the hell cares about society anyway?).

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Thank you for reading this blog!! please excuse any mistakes or weirdly worded sentences, english is not my first language :3