your misandry is not feminism.

I believe there are three types of misandry that pops up as a response to manhood's overwhelming existence;

- Trauma-based, aka, androphobia. Androphobia happens to be the fear of men and usually stems from SA and misogyny, but in turn has lead to indirect or direct misandry when said androphobic ideas are not healed but rather allowed to fester in spaces that WANT men to be dealt the same hands as women just because they are "powerful". Reverse sexism is what people call it..

- Transandrosexism is another form of misandry against men, specifically trans and intersex men. The idea that gender and sex are created by the mind and body instead of given to you or the idea that a boy can be born without maleness and a position in the patriarchy is startling to the misandrists ideal of an all male dictatorship in which men are always powerful no matter their immediate class, state, sex, gender, or color. Men? Men that WANT to be men? Men that were lied to about their manhood so that cis perisex doctors can pass them as something else? Someone becoming a man? Who wants to become a man?     "Men are all pigs."

- Lastly, the hatred of all men, masculinity, maleness, and the gender that is comprised of a myriad of people - trans, intersex, nonbinary, or cis - misandry resulting in sexual violence, physical and emotional abuse, and grooming. This usually happens at a young age for boys instead of men, but men still experience this on an interpersonal level rather than an systematic level. Regardless, misandry happens to young boys and grown men because it is "fair game" given that they are men and can "take a joke". Similar reasons for misogyny; because it is "just a joke". This is usually comprised of all types of abuse and torment.

In all three instances, there is no wonder why most real feminists actually do not partake in this behavior whatsoever, and actually can recognize that de-centering men as the end all to be all is not a one way ticket to misandry town. 

To many who have actually been around men, such as myself, we can actually come to the conclusion that we do not hate men - we hate their parental figures and their attitudes and their beliefs because we do not know if they were raised by their family to be a good man or a good-enough man. And yes, one man being good does not negate the millions of men who have hurt and destroyed, but it does single-handedly change the course of one persons life. A good man is a man who was raised by another good person, to do good and to be good because he happens to live in a world full of bad men who were raised poorly because of the failings of poor men before them. Someone messed up, and instead of fixing it, they left the machine broken. So output only men who were raised to know nothing of women and other genders, to the point where kindness is a ploy to get whatever he wants - not to spread joy.

A good-enough man is a man who had no expectation in his life. Who was raised to be someone who tries his best, but does not know how to remedy a situation. a good-enough man spirals at the idea of another man besting him but will not improve upon himself, instead, he takes it out on those who are not men and who are not old enough to understand his struggles. He forces himself to be the "better man" by collecting things that make him better than his next man, and instead of fixing himself to be a man of his own liking, he chooses to be another man's dog to get everything that makes a "man" a "real man". He is not a good man, because a good man doesn't need to prove that he is a man, he simply does the opposite of a good-enough man and analyzes himself with the expectation that he is a man and people will see him through the lens of manhood, now remembering that his gender is a fragile thing that needs constant regulation in the eyes of society.

A good man is a man who is expected to be a man. And as we know by now, men are pigs. A good man is a man who is told that his gender is shared by pigs, his manhood is deemed monstrous, and that he can cause pain if not careful. A good man is raised to know exactly why, how, and if he is being misogynistic and how he can change his behavior for the future and recognize when he is harming others. a good man does not spiral at the idea of being "less" of a man than others, he refuses to be a man's best friend and side by men if they are being misogynistic - but a good man is not a walking mat either. A good man knows his own boundaries as well as he knows others, and can recognize when HE is hurt and how to describe that pain without blaming other gendered folk.

A good man does not prove to others that he is a pig, he knows that he shares the world with pigs and chooses NOT to "oink."

What is misandry? There are three causes, listed above, but what truly can it stem from that causes a big outcry of "men are oppressors who deserve death"? Well, its not really the men we should be worried about here, its the patriarchy. The patriarchy is what most people actually hate, it is the oppressive system in which agents of the patriarchy (women, men, and others) use their proximity to powerful men in order to ignore and lead them down paths in which the powerful (men, specifically powerful rich men) are able to use said influence to justify oppressive regulations of society, dress, gender, and class. A man who spearheads your entire nation is plotting to reduce women to wombs, and its not the fault of the trans man who cant afford HRT, its the fault of the man who is rich enough to be able to lead their agents of the patriarchy to inflict pain.

But you know what is easier than fighting the patriarchy (an unfortunate corner stone of culture that would need to be dismantled in countries, religion, gender, race, and television in order to be demolished)? Fighting men and implying violence, gendered remarks, insults, and more sexism against male bodies for their mere birth within the sphere of manhood. It is the closest a misandrist can get to fighting the patriarchy, without realizing that the loss of male voters for a feminist woman comes from losing that connection with good-enough men who could have become good men if misandry wasn't something so deeply engraved in how online gender-critical and radical feminism functions. If we had not shunned young boys into hiding their sexual assault, telling them that they are not supposed to be victims, allowing them to learn from bad men, and forcing them to pick their misogynistic relatives over a good life... I am sure we would have gotten closer than ever before.

But reactionary relations with manhood exists, and the fear of men and the maleness of any gender (butches, intersex, nonbinary, etc) scares people because they have made the monster they seemingly want to destroy, but refuse to accept that they had the CHANCE to teach the monster how to not "oink", and chose instead to degrade them on the basis of their gender. Your misandry is equal to misogyny in power, just because you can't see it physically does not mean it is not happening on a social and political scale.

Yes, I believe that misandry is not systemic and men are usually well off regardless of if they experience misandry in their life, but it is an interpersonal set of affairs that creates bigger problems for everyone the moment that men are reduced to animality instead of choice. The moment we blame their "pig" nature, we forget to ask a man if he is remorseful for what he did and we forget that he is human just as any gender is. We forget to remember that he used to be a fetus, then a child, and in all that time, no one taught him how to get rid of his "oink". That no one ever actually paid attention to it, because its "not systemic".

Women will usually always have it worse than men due to the fact that we live in a patriarchy society, but there are certain factors to a person that changes their ability to be the suffering, an agent of the patriarchy, or a powerful. Not all women suffer under the patriarchy, and someone being misogynistic to a white cis woman who is ten times richer than the misogynist is not her suffering the patriarchy, it is her suffering from misogyny.. that all women suffer under. The patriarchy is not an oppressive system for women specifically, is an system made to categorize people into the weak and the powerful, and those who help the powerful. A powerful women benefiting from the patriarchy by using misogyny, racism, and misandry against the suffering is not a feminist and is doing well for herself gender wise. She is a traitor.

"Misandry doesn't exist," but the human behind the man does and if we forget that humanity, we run the risk of forgetting to teach boys how to speak up about their assault. We forget to teach boys consent, we forget to teach them how to talk and how they should uplift good men and good women. We forget to install an expectation in them, that they are living alongside pigs and must not become one, that misandry is real and they are a walking statistic if they choose later in life to become good-enough or bad men. That they sacrifice any sympathy for them the moment they are men who can choose to be bad or good, so they must learn now and quick that only the good men ever get what they want - while bad men live and die through acts of violence.

Your misandry is not feminism.

Your misandry will not destroy the patriarchy.

Your misandry will not change how women are treated.

You are a traitor.