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There's a lot of things I'm going to say so this blog is going to be a messy collection of my thoughts, please forgive any grammatical mistakes and if some of my points clash with each other, or dont make sense.
THIS STATEMENT IS ONLY TRUE BECAUSE YOU MAKE IT TRUE.
Boys don't typically do house chores because they are not raised on doing house chores. They're not told to change their own bedsheets, wash their own dishes, do their own laundry or clean up after their mess. The women in the house will always take care of it. Why? Well, because they're women, and that's their job, while the men get to lounge around all day. This is a fairly common situation and mindset in the middle east especially.
"B-but they go to work!" Oh, you're right! Here's the thing, most women work, too! Taxes and bills don't pay themselves! And you won't believe it when I say this but... they still do house chores too! Crazy, isn't it? So why don't the men help around in the house more? In a fairly, fully functioning house, the chores have to be divided equally, not a 90% women's job and 10% men's. If I'm going to cook and clean, you'll work and buy the groceries. If I'm going to do the laundry, you'll vacuum the floor. So on and so forth.
What's crazier is that it's mostly women with this mindset, and mostly the women who raise their boys to be useless slugs. Why? Because it's passed down generation after generation, trauma after trauma. That's "how I was raised." That has become the standard created by men, and has convinced woman that that's all they are; their tool. What I don't quite understand is why this is especially common in some Muslim families, when our role model should be our prophet Muhammad, and he would have never went by this standard, never told his wives "I'm the man." He would've treated everyone equally, no man better than woman, no woman better than man.
This is one of the biggest reasons why women hate being women. Because we have learned that being a man = an easy life. Being a woman has become being a machine, not a human. Being a woman has become "being a woman," not being a human, living life like we ought to. And we have to put an end to it, stop this standard and learn to live equally.
If any of my points don't make sense, you disagree with, or have a comment to make in general feel free to, I would love to hear you guy's take on it.
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Miri ☆
I totally agree with you. Boys aren’t taught to help at home, and girls are expected to do everything that’s not natural, it’s just learned. Women often do both work and house chores, while men usually only do one, and that’s really unfair.
What you said about Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is also important. He helped at home and treated everyone equally.
If chores were shared fairly from childhood, life would be so different. I’m definitely not gonna pass this onto my children.
Vai
I'm a dude and i just help out with chores whenever I can or whenever help is required from me. it's not like every boy DOSEN'T do chores, it just depends on like the environment they live in or their upbringing in my opinion.
matter of fact my momma gonna whoop me if i dont do my chores or set my bed first thing in the morning.
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omgsere
Yess trueeee i never saw my brother doing the chores it is always me me and me nothing change
R4v3n_Whatzername
I agree!! I feel like this ideology not only is passed through generations, but it's also more enhanced in difficult times or during crisis. I feel like there's a social phenomenon with a specific name that i don't know (I'm not an expert), but it basically says that during hard time society also regresses to more "traditional" and strict values and roles. This is also why it seems like the "housewife" trend is getting reconsidered among girls and women!
xXSm1ley_Xx
This is so real and then they wonder why trans male people exist,, like sure, I get having responsibility to work but being forced to do most of the work is stupid.
SIRIUS ＼( ￣▽￣୨୧)／
"Being a woman has become being a machine, not a human. Being a woman has become "being a woman," not being a human, living life like we ought to." Oh my GOD. that hurts so bad because of how real it is
hiblyn
OMG IKR? heavily agree on this one
I feel like it's kinda like the situation in my household but I try my best to make my brother work and my mum does give him a some work but generally in my country this is so fucking normalized it makes me wanna kill all these fuckass ppl saying this
hiblyn
OMG IKR? heavily agree on this one
I feel like it's kinda like the situation in my household but I try my best to make my brother work and my mum does give him a some work but generally in my country this is so fucking normalized it makes me wanna kill all these fuckass ppl saying this
PauPetal
This isn't true for my household. My parents encourage my siblings and i to be independent with fairness in our house. But, I have met some guys who knew nothing about cleaning, cooking, or doing basic stuff. It shocked me because damn... You don't even know how to change your own bed sheets?
°•Kuzey_Yıldızı•°
And then parents who enable that behaviour act like it's not true. Like they don't actively enforce these rules. "We treat both of you the same way". No you don't and stop acting like you do. And these little boys will treat their partner the same way their parents treated their sister. Taht's the reason why so many man-children and single married mom's exist.
pwushie
+2 kudos. i also agree on this.
pwushie
+2 kudos. i also agree on this.
Cyberstxr.exe<3
You’re right. A man who can’t do basic household tasks is LITERALLY an equivalent of a 40 year old person living in their mom’s basement. You can’t get a gf if you can’t take care of yourself (☝︎ ՞ਊ ՞)☝︎
SparklyQueen
My boyfriend was raised to be a "useless slug". I made him become a man as soon as he set foot in my house. He didn't know how to make pasta or sweep a floor!!
i'd say cooking pasta is so easy (which ofc it is) but then i remember all them ragebait cookin reels from insta where dry pasta is put into a crockpot with raw meat XDD
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justMe
So real, this is what dad thinks like.
justMe
So real, this is what dad thinks like.
wozzle
omg yeah i've been raised not to do any work around the house and it's becoming so increasingly weird to me when women do EVERYTHING for me and i'm let there wondering "why didn't you just ask me to do it? it's my mess, it's my room, why is it *your* responsibility?" and now i don't know how to do almost any housework and it's pathetic '-_-
cryptid4lulz
i see this with my parents too! im not going to get into the specifics of my life, however if they're married, they shoüld commit to it
if there's no balance, especially in this type of relationship, it can lead to argüments, self hatred from either side, they can be distrüsting of others and generally start viewing life from a different angle
we are more than how we're raised, we're able to break cycles and change for the better
it might be more difficült if someone had a roügh start being shown as a kid that its okay to be lazy, büt it's never too late!
Nanaki
+two kudos, heavily agree. Life shouldn't have to feel like a boulder on anyone's shoulders.
Mutant. 25+
I’m sick of hearing this phrase. I roll my eyes every time.
“No, they won’t play with that. They’re boys” “girls/boys don’t act like that” “usually it’s just girls/boys that act like that but he/she’s like that too”
“I can wait til.... is older so she can do more chores” (and not the older boy)
“Ofcourse your dad doesn’t talk to you but spends time with your brother. They’re men, he has nothing to say to you”
I almost wasn’t allowed to watch Toy story as a kid because it was for boys