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I always go in this site to find people with the same interest as me, so I can hopefully be their friend, but our conversations always die out!! I try like twice a day to befriend someone but it just feels like I’m making small talk. I don’t know if it’s just me or has anyone else struggled to make friends on this site?
Don’t even get me started on making friends IRL, like yeah I have my close group of friends but now that I’m starting college I want to go out and meet new people. I want to go talk to someone and develop a good connection with them, but my anxiety holds me back from doing so. I have been diagnosed with anxiety disorder so that could be why I’m nervous, but I don’t want to let that hinder me from making new friends.
I will come up with a plan to talk to new people, on this site and IRL. Maybe I’ll just do trial and error, see what works and what doesn’t work, then I’ll have a sure way of making friends. Welp, I’ll keep you guys updated on this subject, and maybe just random stuff of my life. Goodbye(:
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dozart
I am not sure about making friends as idk when that point becomse friend rather than acquaintance.
But keeping friends, for me, the best thing is being honest/genuine. I think trying to be likeable wears down, unless you're willing to keep up the facade forever, because when they figure out about the real you they leave just like that. So I think being honest or talking deep would be good to find friends who would stay. Obviously not saying be as weird as possible from the jump or anything like that, just not completely hiding yourself to be liked.
But maybe this is just for me because I'm mental, so possibly for normal people trying to be as likeable is a good start. More generally, I think is good is a balance of asking about them and talking about yourself (i used to only talk about others and not myself and i didn't even notice and the conversations dies out surprisingly)
metalxxalloy
what i do, both online and irl, is just pretend im someone else, like an alter ego. i pretend im super confident even if im not, and i just think "would (name of alter ego) act like this?". basically, i just pretend im a cooler, way more awesome, confident version of myself. and i try to keep in mind that i wont become friends with every single person i meet, so i dont need to be super up-tight and worried because, for all i know, i might never see them again, so why be worried what they think? sometimes we've just got to #yolo and move forward lol. because things truly arent that deep and worrying unless u allow it to be
hope this helps, as someone whos also shit at friendship and small-talk :D
Mr.Machine
Mr.Machine here
All you can do is try, and that is more than what most would do. Just remember to put yourself in places where you are more likely to find people that hold similar interests, and college has those in droves. You must fight for the life you want because there is no other way to be.
Your friendly robot
Mr.Machine