My views on feminism, as an opinionated lesbian, autistic, teenage girl.

This post contains mentions of incredibly dark themes, if you don't feel as if you can see many references to these themes, don't read this post!

I was scrolling on pinterest when I decided to make this post, this is as rather than being on the outfit inspo, or recipe, or DIY spheres of that app, I happen to fall into shitposts and ( the reason I'm making this post, whispers. This is as I often ( and i mean often ) see posts that all throw out that same phrase of " feminism isn't hating men, it's about equality ". I am well aware the majority of these posts do not come from any sinister intent, but I find the framing of feminism in this light a mockery of what feminism means at it's core. 

I have formed this opinion due to where I lie on the topic of feminist alignment and beliefs, I am a radical feminist ( no, I am not a terf ) , I also take some beliefs from marxist feminism. I do not believe that the illusion of gender or sex equality in a capitalist society and world is progress in the slightest; the system itself needs a reconstruction if we wan't to even see the distant image of equality alone. 

This belief in a total reconstruction is why I am so adamant against the entire " feminism is not hating men, it's about being equal to them " statement ( as well as other reasons I'll touch on soon ). It's a fantasy, pure gleeful makebelieve, this is the form of " feminism " I trusted so heavily in when I was a small child, and to see it spread lessens my hope in the feminist movement in it's entirety. When is a woman truly equal while the world " thrives " under capitalism, when she's allowed a voice? When she's allowed work? When she's allowed the vote? When her pay is up to par with all her male counterparts? When she can deny her husband, and if he does not take it into account he can be punished?

We are stuck in an endless cycle of blind celebration and the true face of dismay, In a world built up on patriachal standard a woman will never truly be free, no matter what laws are passed, no matter how men treat her ( to her face ), no matter pay. This is because the system itself is built against women ( and many other minorities for that matter ). No matter how many times you say women have the same status as men, that does not make it true. 

" Women have no fewer rights to men! " At face value, this is true. However, even a brush of the dust settled at the surface will reveal otherwise. Women are lacking in adequate healthcare rights, A woman can be denied a life-saving abortion purely because of state legislators that; in the majority of cases have no idea on how procreation truly works. Even outside of legislation, women are severely neglected and borderline abused by the western healthcare system; both in physical and mental health services. This is without any overview of eastern systems, especially in the middle east, women have no healthcare system. Currently in Afghanistan it is illegal for women to practice medicine, have a medical education, as well as see a male doctor. These women are treated as objects, and if they become critically ill, they're practically left on their own to rot. This entire issue becomes far worse once we step away from medicine, women in Palestine are being treated like cattle, Native american women disappear and the police do not care to look for them, women in the Congo are overlooked in their torturous sexual abuse, Afghan women cannot speak, transgender women are consistently facing extreme rates of violence and murder. 

As I said, I would also like to brush on other reasons for my beliefs before I write up a conclusion. While I have many reasons, the main reason other than mere fact is my personal experiences with men. I am fifteen, in less than a quarter of the average lifespan, I have experienced harassment, rape, and an attempt at my life. Due to my age at the time of my assault ( three years old ) I cannot truly unfold the ways this has affected me. However, the attempt at my life occured at thirteen, therefore it is still incredibly relevant in my memory ( despite my complete erasure of it in my memory throughout 2024 ). What could a thirteen year old girl, walking by the beach at 7pm with her friend POSSIBLY do to deserve threats with a knife? Refuse to approach a middle aged man I did not know in the dark. This said man then attempted to chase me and my friend down the path  next to the desolte beaches, until we ( Thank the fuckin' Lord ) found an area with people, and bought some nice fries because God knows we deserved them. 

This leads onto the subject that many modern feminists look down on women who have aversions to men, no matter the context; to these people that cower behind equality, justification does not exist and you are a misandrist for your avoidance and dislike. Dismissing women for their reluctance to interact with men feeds back into the patriarchy, believing that women must involve men no matter the cost to their mental health centres men yet again. Your equality is utter bullshit if it puts down victims and uplifts male dominance. 

I honestly don't know a correct way to end this post, I'm not really a writer, my focus is on my art, however, this topic is something I hold incredibly close to my heart as some who cannot escape the constant harassment of men ( having E cup boobs at 15 is NOT for the weak ). I hope that this reaches at least one person who has a similar background as me.