Am I being too dramatic for this ?>!?!

I recently started dating this guy and I am not sure about u ladies but personally I think when a guy has a low following and following a low percentage of girls its because of something and IDK I know I am not tripping because he also follows girls spams.. like damn boi and he met my parents and I just want him to understand its about the respect towards your partner. I don't understand  why men act like that. It's always the same shit over and over again I really do not want to go through this all my life when meeting a man. Ive gone through a guys phone once and that shit ruined me for completely, I won't ever recover from that shit T-T but in all honesty I don't know how to make him understand that I just want to trust him but he needs to stop with that following random girls on insta because its just like damn