Who would you say is your "anti" role model? Someone who serves as a warning rather than an inspiration.

For me it would have to be some of my ex-colleagues. Let me preface, they are all really great people and I like MOST of them but the amount of time and effort they put into their work makes me anxious just thinking about it. 

To put this into context for you, where I previously lived it was expected and normalized to not leave the office until your manager does even though you have no work left. To skip the hour long traffic if you drove in by car you would either start EARLY [ leave the house at 5am] or leave late [leave the office at 9pm] my average work commute was 1 hour 30 minutes. It was just a taxing way to leave, wake up eat sleep work eat sleep wakeup work eat sleep 

It made me really think about my relationship with money. Like trust a lot of those people are making bank, buying houses and excelling in their career but like IDK if i want to live like that just to reach that point earlier ... like it gives me enormous FOMO because i'm so far behind but at the same time do i want to be on that level? I think I just want to work towards a balance is all. I mean getting paid just slightly above minimum wage isn't ideal either and thats my situation rn.