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Can we normalize not trauma dumping to random people? Going to a McDonald's and talking about to the worker how your gf cheated on you?? Its less common irl but on the internet its way more common and normalized. Like I dont need to know your whole life.
Trauma dumping rant
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Yuchun!
Nobody does that, and the term "trauma dumping" is on the verge of essentially saying "I don't wanna hear about my friend's problems." Really, how can we both say we want people to be open emotionally, while then saying they're "trauma dumping?" Sounds kinda sociopathic to me, I don't get how you're unable to just listen to others.
Venting and trauma dumping is different, Im okay to listen to my friends problems and maybe even help them, but when strangers or people I met like twice start to tell me about their traumas, then I will feel uncomfortable because I don't know them that much, not to mention Im not obligated to listen to my friends venting all the time, I can have boundaries. And if I want them to not bring it up around me because It makes me uncomfortable, then I can ask for it. (Tho I wont because Im comfortable around MY FRIENDS and I dont feel comfortable around strangers so no, having boundaries is not sociopathic
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Thanks for clarifying, though I'm talking about the term's use by the masses, not specifically you. I'm pretty tired of seeing some "tea spiller" essentially showcase a friend's vulnerability on social media because she gave her the "ick" by "trauma dumping." To me it's proof the term itself is complete horseshit, and you should probably adhere to just calling strangers getting too personal a different thing altogether. Trauma dumping as a phrase explicitly implies a sense of control, of deliberate guilt tripping, by talking about specific trauma one has. That is why I personally find the term detestable. There is a reason why guilt tripping is different, deliberately guilting someone is a lot more detectable and undesirable than having to hear somebody's bad thoughts.
That's just my take on it, at least.
by Yuchun!; ; Report
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people fucking do that?? ugh that's wildly inappropriate lmao
More than you think, internet made it acceptable. Which is sad.
by Botond; ; Report